It was always said between us “Home is wherever you are” my journey has definitely challenged me to rediscover a new definition of “home”- in his absence. “Where we love is home – home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.”
A lot has changed in how we celebrate – a lot has remained the same. The shared memories and traditions of the past keep us connected as a family – connected to the memory of David and our wonderful Christmas holidays. A family living with loss is challenged by the undeniable changes that occur – that have occurred for us throughout the year but as we have learned new patterns, we create new traditions in our effort to evolve and adapt to those changes.
One of the most profound ways we have been able to move through our grief and begin to heal has been “giving back” – the gratitude for what still remains despite what has been lost to us is not only reminiscent of the character of David but defines the character of a family and a living legacy – the community involvement, the outreach programs and the charitable events have a way of putting everything in its proper perspective. “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
… I love the smell of a fresh cut Christmas Tree, I love the shimmering lights – the ornaments that adorn my tree this year are those of special significance some date back to our first Christmases together. My children will take the remaining that have been collected throughout the years that have special meaning for each of them – a little bit of their Dad will always be with them during the holidays. I’m looking forward to an old-time favorite, an old-time tradition – our Gathering Table, where family ties were strengthened and friends became family.
We’ll gather and celebrate the spirit of the season.
I have cherished memories of our last Christmas with David – to us Christmas was more then just presents – it was always about the people we loved and the time we spent together – creating our family album of memories.